8 Tips for Taking Care of Newborns

Baby sleeping on tummy with cheek resting on arm

"Overwhelmed" is a word that describes how you may feel when you first bring home your newborn. Thoughts of "I'm not prepared for this!" to "How could the hospital trust us with this precious life?" may scurry through your mind as you try to meet all of your baby's needs. Don't despair. Here are some great tips for you as a new parent from those who have been in your shoes.

Settling Tiny Tummies

My baby has had problems with spitting up ever since we brought him home. He would eat and be kept upright for a time, but once we laid him down, he would spit up on himself and start screaming.

The two places where this issue was the worst was in the crib and on the changing table. Over time, I've found two easy fixes.

On the changing table, I fold a receiving blanket as a small pillow for him, and it works great. The little bit of incline helps keep him from spitting up. In the crib, I put a small, thin pillow under the mattress to help prop up the head of the mattress a little. It's amazing that something so small can make a big difference.

—Jackie Senky

Baby Steps for New Parents

Hours after our first child was born, my husband began to change our son's diaper for the first time. I looked on. Immediately a yellow spray shot up and fell, hitting our son in the face. He began screaming. My husband backed up. The screaming grew louder, and the hospital nurse hurried in.

"I'm afraid I'm doing something wrong," my husband said. 

"He is completely fine, but he's picking up on your emotions," she said.

As we relaxed, we were both astonished that our son calmed down, too. Infants cry because they're hungry, tired, uncomfortable or in pain. Barring those factors, our relaxed attitude may help settle our children's emotions.

—Jessica Jones

Calming a Fussy Baby

When my first baby was born, everything seemed perfect — for about three weeks. Then suddenly, my precious bundle of joy morphed into a nonstop screaming machine.

Coping with a fussy baby can be quite a challenge, especially for a new mother. These three techniques helped me calm my crying infant:

Motion. Most babies love motion. My daughter particularly enjoyed rocking in an infant swing, riding in the car or being lightly "bounced" while my husband or I paced the room.

Warmth. I often gave our daughter a warm bath to relax her or placed a warm (not hot) water bottle against her tummy to help soothe her gas pains.

Closeness. During the day, I would "wear" my fussy baby in a sling as I did chores around the house. And at night, my husband and I swaddled her.

 —Julie Campbell

Tips for the First Few Weeks

1. Finding a schedule. Knowing that most newborns thrive on a schedule, I set out to discover the natural rhythms to my daughter's day. Using a day planner, I noted when my daughter slept, ate and stayed awake. In this way, I was able to identify, and subsequently, maintain her schedule — first noticing a pattern after two weeks.

2. Reassuring older siblings. Since nursing a newborn can be time consuming, I didn't want my other children to feel as if the new baby got all my attention. During feedings, I would have my other young children gather books, and we'd read together on the sofa while I nursed.

3. Putting baby to bed. To help my infant ease into her crib after feedings, I first warmed the bed with a heating pad, always removing the pad from the crib and turning it off before laying the baby down.

—Marcia Hornok

Your Baby's Snuggle Personality

Some babies were born to snuggle. Other babies, like my daughter, are more resistant. But all babies need physical affection to develop properly and bond with their parents. If your child is less than happy to cuddle, try experimenting in these three areas to discover your baby's snuggle personality:

Position. The only snuggle position my daughter tolerated was the stomach-to-stomach position. A friend's baby would only cuddle if she was on your lap with her head on your knees and her feet pointed toward you.

Timing. Some babies like to cuddle right after they eat. Others like to cuddle right before bed. My son resisted cuddling with his dad before bed because my husband was too good at getting him right to sleep. Figure out when your baby is most in the mood for snuggles and cuddle then.

Motion. Both of my children preferred a gentle up-and-down bounce to traditional rocking. Some babies like a back-and-forth motion. Experiment until you find what works best for your baby.

If your baby still resists being held close, try alternate methods of physical contact, such as rubbing her back or giving her a gentle massage.

—Alice Zvacek

Room to Splash

With our infant daughter, bath time became stressful for everyone involved. One little change helped us go from "Hurry up before she gets mad" to "She's not going to be happy that it's time to get out!" We ditched the baby tub and placed her on a nonskid mat in the big tub or our large sink. She could splash freely, reach her bath toys and kick her legs, which turned bath time into playtime.

Small bathtubs may be best for brand-new babies, but once a baby can sit up on her own, she may not want to be confined. Allowing our daughter to explore her surroundings took bath time from terrible to terrific.

—Jennifer Nanninga

Sensitive Skin

The skin of a newborn is extremely sensitive. Many babies have dry skin after birth, and a parent's inclination may be to put lotion or oil on it. This can often cause allergic reactions. I learned to wait for a couple of weeks before I used any lotions. Then I spot tested it on a small part of my infant's body to see if there was a reaction.

—Susan Baity

Prepare for Departure

One of the big challenges of having a newborn is the time it takes to get ready to go somewhere. A simple solution I use is setting an alarm on my phone for 30 minutes before we need to be out the door. When the alarm goes off, I know it's time to feed and change the baby and gather everything we need to take with us.

—Sara Walther

The compiled article "8 Tips for Taking Care of Newborns" first appeared on FocusOnTheFamily.com (2016). "Settling Tiny Tummies" first appeared in the August/September 2018 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. "Baby Steps for New Parents" first appeared in the October/November 2016 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. "Calming a Fussy Baby" first appeared in the January/February 2014 issue of Thriving Family magazine. "Tips for the First Few Weeks" first appeared in the Summer 2011 issue of Thriving Family magazine. "Your Baby's Snuggle Personality" first appeared in the March/April 2014 issue of Thriving Family magazine. "Room to Splash" first appeared in the October/November 2013 issue of Thriving Family magazine. "Sensitive Skin" first appeared in the December 2015/January 2016 issue of Thriving Family magazine. "Prepare for Departure" first appeared in the June/July 2016 issue of Focus on the Family magazine. If you enjoyed this article, read more like it in Focus on the Family's marriage and parenting magazine. Get this publication delivered to your home by subscribing to it for a gift of any amount.

"Settling Tiny Tummies" © 2018 by Jackie Senky. "Baby Steps for New Parents" © 2016 by Jessica Jones. "Calming a Fussy Baby" © 2013 by Julie Campbell. "Tips for the First Few Weeks" © 2011 by Marcia Hornok. "Your Baby's Snuggle Personality" © 2014 by Alice Zvacek. "Room to Splash" © 2013 by Jennifer Nanninga. "Sensitive Skin" © 2015 by Suzanne Baity. "Prepare for Departure" © 2016 by Sara Walther. Used by permission. 

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