Facing Crisis

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Defining and Understanding Trauma

Mark A. Mayfield

Not all traumatic experiences are equal, but the way the body reacts to trauma is similar in every situation. Two broad categories might be called trauma with a capital T and trauma with a small t.

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Faith Conversation: Searching for Hope

Focus on the Family Magazine

If your marriage has an area that needs a miracle, seek God. You may not understand how He is working, and the miracle He brings may look different from what you expect, but He is always faithful. 

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When to See a Therapist Instead of Just Asking Friends for Help

Mike Bechtle

When you have problems with your marriage, you might reach out to friends, who bring value that a professional can't. But when should you get professional help?

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Living With a Depressed Spouse

Craig Cato

Craig's best efforts at helping his depressed wife made him exhausted, bitter and resentful. Then, prompted by God, he made a decision that changed his life and began her healing process.

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Al and Lisa Robertson: 'Forgiveness Changed Everything'

Benjamin Hawkins

The pain of an affair drove both Al and Lisa to despair. They were shattered, exhausted and drained of all pride. But the crisis was also a turning point — what they now call "desperate forgiveness."

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How to Overcome Porn Addiction and Restore Relationships

Michelle Habel

Forgiving a pornography user too quickly can hinder recovery because it avoids the problem. Bravely acknowledging the emotions associated with betrayal is imperative to the true forgiveness process.

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How to Help Your Husband Who Was Sexually Abused as a Child

Greg Smalley

One of every six boys is sexually abused. And men carry the impact of abuse with them long afterward. Without a safe space to process his story, a man may simply shut down and lock away his memories.

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Focus on the Family Broadcast

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Healing Our Hurting Marriage

Pastor Paul Westbrook and his wife, Melody, talk with openness and honesty about the marital crisis they faced and describe how a four-day intensive experience at Hope Restored helped save their marriage, and gave them tools for better communication in the future.

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Mile Markers on the Path From Hurt to Hope

Meg Wilson

After your spouse confesses a pornography addiction, you might feel stuck. The journey to healing starts by acknowledging that you’re not alone. Here are some mile markers to guide you along the way.

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Pornography, the Brain and Bonding

Nick Stumbo

God created the brain to bond sexually with one person: a spouse. When we understand how our brains really work, we're free to enjoy God’s design and trust that it’s far better than we imagine.

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Keeping Your Marriage Intact While Grieving the Loss of a Child

Mary Ann Vincent

The death of a child can set you on the most difficult trek of your life, one that challenges your connection in marriage. As dark as this time is, there’s hope for the future — and your marriage.

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From Meth Addiction to Ministry: A Grand Plan for Mac and Mary Owen

Travis Thrasher

One couple tells about the heartache of placing a child up for an adoption, drug addiction and co-dependency. Find out how God mercifully redeemed their marriage and family by rewriting their story.

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Beating the Odds: 10 indicators your marriage will survive porn addiction

Rob Jackson

Ultimately, pornography addicts are dependent on God for recovery. But certain patterns lead to healing, and others result in heartbreak.

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3 Myths About Forgiveness When Your Spouse Betrays You

Shelley Martinkus

When her husband confessed a porn addiction, Shelly thought she had forgiven him. A year later, she was still holding hatred toward him. That realization started her on the path toward true forgiveness.

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Aaron and Melissa Klein

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One Couple's Fight to Honor God With Their Bakery

Benjamin Hawkins

Aaron and Melissa Klein endured long court battles and ultimately suffered the loss of their bakery after refusing to create a wedding cake for a gay couple. But their faith and marriage relationship proved strong.

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3 Things to Say — and Not Say — After You Admit Your Porn Addiction

Joe Dallas

After admitting your pornography addiction to your wife, you need to rebuild trust. Lots of men say the wrong thing. This guide will help you know what you should say and what you shouldn't.

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How We Finally Won the Battle Against Pornography

Michelle Stumbo

Michelle's fiance admitted he had a problem with pornography. After they married, she thought the addiction was in the past, but he kept relapsing. This is Michelle's story of hurt, help and hope.

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Sexual Brokenness in Marriage: A Biblical Way to Respond

Jonathan Daugherty

“I have a secret, a big one.” These words can panic a spouse. What do you do when you hear them? How do you respond? Fear is justified after trust-breaking sexual betrayal, but you can work through it.

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Restoring Trust After a Confession of Pornography Addiction

Joann Condie with Geremy Keeton

Healing a marriage after the damage of a pornography addiction is no simple matter. A healthy marriage requires deep commitment from both spouses. And to heal a broken marriage, both must take action.

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The Problems of Pornography: Sexual Dysfunction and Beyond

Freda Bush

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is not new, but ED is no longer occurring only in middle-aged and older men. Many men with ED are under 40. Research suggests this might be the result of pornography addiction.

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How Pornography Prevents Intimacy in Your Marriage

Jonathan Daugherty

Does viewing pornography as couple enhance intimacy in marriage? Marital sexuality is to be exclusive. So, pornography not only decreases true intimacy in marriage but actually prevents it.

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When Your Husband Confesses Addiction to Pornography

Meg Wilson

Meg was devastated by her husband's confession, but her response initiated a new level of intimacy with God for her. Now she ministers to women devastated by their husbands' poor sexual choices.

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The Importance of Vulnerability in Fighting Pornography Addiction

Geremy Keeton

You can't keep hiding. You can't kick the habit on your own; no one can. If you really want to be free, you're going to have to open up to others. You're going to have to learn to be vulnerable.

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